We Love Impressions!!!

OK, for a change, this time I will begin with a straight question, how often you don’t like a person who is loved by many others? I am sure you would say quite many times. Even this is not rarity that we find it too irritating to see somebody, whom we used to like a lot sometime in the past. We often see, the same children who love their parents when they are kids, stop loving them when they grow up. A boy or girl, who is ready to die for his or her beloved, stops even taking to the other at some point of time. Why do we have totally opposite emotions for the same person at different point of times? Above that, what makes us love or hate somebody?

Thinking over this, I realized that our emotions for somebody are based on our judgements. We as humans are always trying to judge others. Infect, we are born judges. We love judging people. Forget about people, we don’t even leave objects and the nature around us. We judge people, make an impression about them in our minds and behave accordingly. The behaviour and emotions that we associate with an impression in our mind remains the same throughout our lives. We just keep changing the impressions of the people surrounding us.

Interestingly the impression exhibited by a person varies drastically with time. We are never absolute and possibly we can’t be. We are made to change the impressions with time and situations. Right from the moment we are born we keep changing the impressions. Somebody who can come up with the right impression at the right time is loved by everybody.

Most of us always wonder what we do to be liked by somebody. The answer is simple. Just try to see which impressions are liked by that somebody. You just need to fit yourself into the lovable impression of that somebody. If your friend likes people who speak less, you speak less and surly you would be loved by your friend. If your girlfriend likes her boyfriend to spend time with her, you spend time with her and surly you would be liked by your girlfriend.

On the other side, if you want to love somebody just change the definition of the lovable impression that you have in your mind. So if your friend speaks more than your liking, start loving people who speak more. If your boyfriend doesn’t give you time, start loving people who give you less time and enjoy the privacy that you get.

Is it all that simple? Had this been simple, everybody would have loved everybody else. The complex thing is to change the impressions. We can’t change impressions so frequently. Infect to put more correctly, we find it hard to go against the impressions which we find lovable. The moment we are born, we are zero. We don’t have lovable impressions and we can love almost everybody. You see, the kids love almost anybody. Kids love humans and not impressions. But as we grow up, we get surrounded by the impressions, one over another. Imagine how the life would be when we start loving humans and not impressions. On a very remote note, imagine how the life would be when we the humans would be humans and not impressions.