Alter your Nature, not Behaviour !!

Let’s begin with a question. How often do you like a learning, you accept it, you decide to follow it and yet you fail to do so? Let us put this in other words. How often do you decide to or you are suggested to alter your behaviour and you agree to do so, but still you find it hard to continue the alteration. I am sure you would say many times. Have you ever wondered that the learning that you gather from your experiences remains forever while the learning that you get from listening to somebody or reading somewhere remains temporary!! You listen or read, you accept, you follow, you ignore and then you forget.

There are innumerous examples of such a behavioural pattern. You come to know it is good to do exercise everyday yet you don’t do it. Although when you get into really bad shape or health, you start paying attention to it. You know you bother too much about what others say and that makes you feel bad most of the times. One fine day you read a self-help book and come to realize that it is not what you should do. You bring in the alteration in your behaviour and continue with the alteration for some time, but then you come back to the original way of being after some time. Although one sudden day something drastic happens in your life and you decide that now onwards you won’t really care about what others say and you continue with it as well.

Have you ever wondered what causes the permanent change or what really brings the persistent transformation within you? I tried to think over this. After thinking a little I realized that whenever we get to know something and we try to alter our behaviour accordingly we often fail to retain the alteration. The alteration remains permanent only when we actually, truly, really realize what we have come to know and alter our nature accordingly. Experiences in our lives always give us great learning and alter our nature. That’s why we are able to retain our learning that we get out of our experiences. This would make you think how nature is different than behaviour as it did to me as well. I went on to identify the difference. Further I share what I realized.

Everyone has a nature that is formed by the observations or experiences that he or she gets in his or her life. It is the basic way of thinking or being. Behaviour is a little different. It’s the way you act. Nature is internal or inherent, while behaviour is external and is derived from nature. So your nature decides the way you think and act in various situations. The way you act defines your behaviour. This means your nature decides your behaviour and when you alter you nature, your behaviour alters automatically.

You might wonder if this is the case then how come it is possible that sometimes we alter our behaviour only without altering our nature. I would say this is possible and this is the fault we make. Many times our behaviour is not aligned with our nature. We don’t behave in synchronization with our nature and that’s when we fail to bring in the persistent transformations. Behaving opposite to your nature never leads you to success. You can do so only for a small period. You cannot continue it for long. So if you want to bring in a permanent transformation within yourself for whatever expected goods then you really need to alter you nature instead of behaviour.

I won’t end before pointing on how you change your nature and not behaviour when you want to bring in permanent transformations. It is very simple. You need to really get into what you have come to know. You need to realize instead of just agreeing or accepting it. What this means is you really accept the learning as a reality in your life and writes it deep down within your mind and heart. No matter what comes your way, you always have that learning with you. In other words you really get committed to what you learned. This cause the change in your nature. And as I said, change in nature changes the behaviour automatically.